Is moving forward the same as moving on? I don’t think so. Moving on seems more final.
On Valentine’s Day 2014 I took off his ring. It was given to me “for love and commitment”. The memory of the day he gave it to me is one that I treasure and one that I do not want to forget. We had a discussion about what finger I would wear it on, I know that he was pleased that I chose to wear it on my ring finger, left hand. That was a definite moving on moment. Moving on from the past of a painful divorce.
I do not want to forget. I do not want to feel unfaithful. I do not want to feel that I have let him down.
I took off his ring, not because I wanted to move on, but because I wanted to move forward.
Moving forward is hard, because I always have the “What if?” questions in the back of my mind.
What if he is still alive?
What if he just turns up one day and I have moved on?
I would rather just move forward, day by day. This is my choice.